If you could give one piece of advice to any married (or soon-to-be married) couple,
what would it be?
For the bride: boys are messy, so you just have to get used to it!
For the groom: girls are set in their ways, so you just have to get used to it!
No but really: choose your battles. Not everything is worth having a little spat over. Try to roll with it unless it's something that truly merits a discussion - and when it does, talk about it instead of fighting about it!
What is an absolute MUST for any marriage/relationship?
You have to have a wonderful friendship!
If your spouse isn't your best friend, you should be working on changing that :)
What is the #1 no-no in a marriage?
Don't ever bad-talk your spouse to anyone ! It's one thing to vent a little to a friend ("he forgot to take the trash out again! Arrgghh!") but another to slam him/her about something that's a private matter that you're upset about at the moment. The thing is, no matter what it's about, you'll forgive them, forget and move on. But the person you told? Probably won't ever forget it.
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from your marriage?
That I can't be selfish anymore! Suddenly, everything I owned became "ours" instead of "mine." My paycheck that used to be mine all mine has to sometimes be spent on stuff just for the Hubs. It took a lot of getting used to this concept, even though it seems like an obvious lesson! And trust me, this is something I still work on learning almost every day!
